Monday, June 12, 2023

Not Just A Mom: How We Became A Mom

It's been awhile since I've linked up with all the "Not Just A Mom" bloggers but I wanted to join in today. This month we're talking about "how we became a mom" which is a topic I find really interesting.

You may, or may not, know that Dave and I didn't start dating until I was 34 and a half. I'd always wanted to be a mom but had almost given up hope that it would happen. Things moved fairly quickly with Dave and I and we started dating in November 2006, got engaged in October 2007, and got married in June 2008. Since we were housemates when we started dating, we'd talked about having one of us move out, but that didn't make a lot of sense, and when Dave was accepted to a PhD program out of province, we moved three provinces away together in summer 2007.

All this is to say, what with me being older (just over 36 when we got married), and both of us wanting kids, we decided to try to get pregnant right away, in case it took awhile. Spoiler alert: It didn't take awhile :) We got pregnant on our honeymoon although I didn't clue in right away why Dave got over jet lag so much faster than I did. Hahaha! I took a pregnancy test in late-ish July 2008 and it came up positive really quickly. And then the morning sickness hit. And it lasted all day. And it didn't go away for three months.

We talked about nicknames for our baby and Dave came up with the idea of "Attila the Hun" because a dictator was taking over my body! We figured once I stopped being so sick, we'd call it "The Hun" but by the time I stopped throwing up (around 20 weeks), the name Attila had stuck. And everybody referred to the baby as Attila. It was kind of hilarious :) Dave even made a separate Hallowe'en costume for Attila that year and just a few weeks ago I met someone who was at that Hallowe'en party, whom I hadn't seen in years, and they remembered this costume! Upon meeting Sam they asked, "Were you the jack-o-lantern at the party when your mom was pregnant?!?!"

Since we didn't know if we were having a boy or a girl, we got a lot of gender neutral, duck themed items. Dave joked that Attila wouldn't know if they were a duck or a human, and thus the mural for Attila's nursery was born. This was a fun project to work on.
This picture was taken on Attila's due date :) Sam was born 6 hours and 13 minutes after his due date and you can read his birth story here. The preview: Natasha's water breaks, we're on the phone with the midwife keeping her updated, Natasha never pushes, do they make it to the hospital?!?!?!

Sam, at a few days old

A little shell shocked to have a baby in our arms. These pictures were taken when he was less than two hours old. (If you didn't read Sam's birth story, he was born at home in an unassisted, unplanned, home birth.)
When Sam was a little over one, we started trying for Baby #2. Baby #2 was not as eager to join us as Sam was :) We did get pregnant in July 2010 but I miscarried shortly after and it was a very sad few weeks. Since I was 38, we worried about secondary infertility and it was a hard and stressful five months. However, by early October 2010, breakfast was starting to taste a little off. I took a pregnancy test very early on and it was definitively positive.
Barely pregnant with Rachel

I was so sick with Rachel. I didn't throw up as much as I did with Sam but I was so nauseous all the time. There are about two months of Sam's life that I just don't remember because I was (barely) at work or in bed. Dave did the bulk of the parenting and my parents came to help out for a few weeks because I was so sick. And true to our nature of naming our children after invaders, Rachel's nickname in utero was Knut -- a Norwegian dictator. We joked that Baby #2 would be named Ghengis, and so we gave that name to the baby we miscarried at six weeks.
Because we lived in a very small duplex when Rachel was born, we turned a corner of our room into her "nursery." We painted a couple of animals on the wall for her -- a giraffe and a hippo. On the right is me proving that I could still balance. This was the day before Rachel was born. Rachel was four days overdue, my parents came to wait with us, and I just remember feeling so frustrated and impatient that week. (By the way, tomorrow marks the 12th anniversary of Rachel's due date!)

You can read Rachel's birth story here and, if you read Sam's and think his was crazy, Rachel's tops it!

Sam, meeting Rachel, who was about an hour and a half old.
So that is the story of "how I became a mom." While the timing (for becoming a mom or of my labours -- hahaha!) is not necessarily what I would have chosen, I wouldn't change things, because this family was absolutely the one I was meant to have. And they are well worth the wait.

Check out the "Not Just A Mom" bloggers at the links above


  1. This was beautiful to read! I was sick for three months both times too! Love that nickname ;)

    1. Wow, I am sorry you were so sick for much of both pregnancies. And I am sorry for the loss of baby #2. I am sure it would have been a precious child, too. I enjoyed reading this very much and have enjoyed watching your babies grow up here on your blog.

  2. A honeymoon baby! Perfect. I'm sorry about your miscarriage. I know how sad that can be. Love all the pics. Thanks for linking up with us.

  3. Right?! The kids we ended up with are only because of the timing, I can't imagine anyone different (although we would have loved them too, hah!). Thanks for joining us today!

  4. I'm loving the baby bump pics!!!!!

  5. This was fun to read about although I know that nausea is no fun!

  6. I was so sick with Alec (my second) for the whole nine months which was such a shock to me after hardly have any problems with my first pregnancy! Off to read both birth stories...

  7. hehehe, calling the baby Attila the Hun did make me chuckle and that Halloween costume too. How cute.
    Oh wow! Go you having an unassisted home birth.
    Fantastic photos.

  8. I've read both birth stories before (yours are SO interesting!!) but this was fun to read the 'whole' journey in one post. And crazy that our boys are 14 - where is the time going?!

  9. How fun to read! I can't wait to read their birth stories in more detail.

    Lauren @ Don't Mind Our Mess

  10. I love the nicknames!! It reminded me that my husband thought we should name our third child Jonah because he would be coming out of the "belly of the whale" - I would have been offended except that I was REALLY big and it was too funny! LOL How wonderful that you were able to have a home birth . . . even though that's not what you'd planned! Love reading all these stories!!

  11. Love the in utero knicknames!!

  12. aww a honeymoon baby. i love the paintings on the nursery wall


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