Tuesday, October 12, 2021

Not Just A Mom: How We Handle Busy Nights

I'm linking up a day late with all the Not Just A Mom bloggers because yesterday was Canadian Thanksgiving. I'm afraid I don't have a lot of great tips for this one so I'm looking forward to reading how other people answered this question because I need some tips.

First, I need to define what constitutes a "busy night" for us. It's either a night where we are all out for supper and the evening (like for our mid-week church program), or one of the kids has activities after school or after supper (think baseball or dance evenings), or we're trying to get something done in the evening (think running "can't wait" errands during the week or we have a family event happening after supper).

My best tips for how we handle busy nights are:

1) Plan a supper ahead of time which won't take much work -- we often do tacos which are quick to make, a casserole which can be prepared ahead of time and popped in the oven, a quick pasta dish., or leftovers. Busy nights are not the nights to spend more than about fifteen to twenty minutes making dinner.

2) Divide and conquer -- Dave will drive Rachel to dance and I will pick up our CSA. Or he will make supper and I will get the kids ready to head out the door. On busy nights, one parent can't handle doing it all without losing their temper.

3) Get the kids moving -- If we know we have to leave for the evening, I will get the kids to do chores right after school -- taking out the garbage and recycling, doing dishes, or having showers right after school. Anything that doesn't need to wait until after supper to happen, happens before we have to leave.


4) Don't be afraid of fast food -- If we have an midweek evening activity happening after supper like trick or treating on Halloween or some of the evening events during the holidays, we will often grab a fast food supper, in addition to trying to get a lot of things done after school. We don't always have time to cook and sometimes, knowing we're grabbing a quick supper out, motivates the kids (and me!) to get more done ahead of time.

5) Schedule in some down time -- I don't know about you, but my family gets really grumpy when we have too many busy nights in a row. We can't "go go go" all the time without melting down. So we make sure that we have space in our schedule to relax and do our own things too. If I know we have a few busier nights in a row, I will make sure the evening before and after don't have a lot of plans.

Like I said, I don't know that any of these tips are earth shattering and I'm looking forward to reading what the other bloggers in the link up have to share. You can check out the other bloggers, and find the link up, at their blogs below.

12 comments:

  1. Splitting up everything between you is the best way to handle it.

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  2. Every night is a busy night when you're a mom, right? :)
    Love the advice though!

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  3. Totally remember the divide and conquer of my childhood!

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  4. Yes, down time! We don't put a lot of things in our calendar throughout the week for that very reason!

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    1. We definitely need our downtime throughout the week.

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  5. Oh YES! I find that we as a family needs lots of downtime too. We do not thrive living on the go.

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    1. We can be on the go for a night or two but much longer than that and the wheels start to come off, as it were!

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  6. I love “don’t be afraid of fast food.” I had to let go of cooking every week night a couple of years ago. Sometimes we have pizza on Thursdays and I have more time to cook on Friday!. Love your tips!

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    1. Yes, I feel so much more motivated to cook if we've had an "easy dinner" the night before.

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  7. Love your tips! Dividing and conquering are key!

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    1. Thanks! Divide and conquer is definitely the way we make things work around here.

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  8. I relate to this post so much! Anytime we have a planned activity after school, I consider it a "busy night" and I hate having a lot of them in one week. I'm jealous of your "divide and conquer" because Adam is never home in time to help so it's always just me and the 3 boys. I was always so opposed to take-out food but I started doing Mediterranean pick-up after soccer practice and it's been a game changer for us!

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